Ever feel like nother in the world goes frickin right for you

[Bansheeman1121]

I dont no im not lookin for make everyone feel sry for me post but what is the deal with bein 20 years old.... I didnt exactly go to school and become a doctor or lawyer even tho it seems to be the only thing to be this day, i didnt go to school at all, i got a good job i mean my parnts aint rich i cant live off them i take care of myself but im just so confused i been drinkin way to much latly i guess its not good to get maried at 20 but i just got fed by another girl and im just thinkin to myself how do u meet a decent girl it pretty much crushed my world this time around when i got screwed by a pretty ass girl who i thought i might have somthing with kicked me in the nutz like eveyother one of them and it just puts me in this spot where i think like where a i gonna be 20 years down the road still workin my ass of at this job? drinkin everynight cuase i cant get stuff right? i dont no i just dont no what the hell to do like is someone gonna come along someday that dont kick me in the balls.. its hard to figure out how to make it in this world.... so plz help 20 years young and really confused serously any help is awsome right now cuase i feel like leavin this place and never comin back

[BigRed350x]

I dont no im not lookin for make everyone feel sry for me post but what is the deal with bein 20 years old.... I didnt exactly go to school and become a doctor or lawyer even tho it seems to be the only thing to be this day, i didnt go to school at all, i got a good job i mean my parnts aint rich i cant live off them i take care of myself but im just so confused i been drinkin way to much latly i guess its not good to get maried at 20 but i just got fed by another girl and im just thinkin to myself how do u meet a decent girl it pretty much crushed my world this time around when i got screwed by a pretty ass girl who i thought i might have somthing with kicked me in the nutz like eveyother one of them and it just puts me in this spot where i think like where a i gonna be 20 years down the road still workin my ass of at this job? drinkin everynight cuase i cant get stuff right? i dont no i just dont no what the hell to do like is someone gonna come along someday that dont kick me in the balls.. its hard to figure out how to make it in this world.... so plz help 20 years young and really confused serously any help is awsome right now cuase i feel like leavin this place and never comin back

 

 

Hey man!

 

If you really are looking for a down to earth, decent girl, how about getting out there and making some changes for yourself to help you do that? Being all down on yourself like this doesn't help YOU any. If you want to find a girl like that, then get out there and do what you know you have to do to find her. Don't waste your time with girls that you know things wont work out with, just because they might be pretty. There's more to it than that. Your young and have a LOT of life ahead of you to find "the one" Don't rush things and just go with the flow of stuff.

 

I usually find that just when I start to feel comfortable doing my own single thing again I usually find another girl who enjoys being with me. So dont' rush things and just do your best to get back to doing your own thing and I'm sure another one will come around. Grieve for your loss in this past relationship, then move on. Don't bother wasting any more of your life than you need to worrying about the past. It doesn't help you any. Look to the future and what it might hold for you.

 

Look what it got me. <<<< Avatar.

 

- Jared

 

EDIT: Besides.. you have yoru banshee. Chicks dig banshees... they vibrate and make them feel all happy inside. LOL!

Edited January 16, 2007 by BigRed350x

[airdog]

i would start by laying off the alcohol, cause it sounds like your using it as a crutch. and i think it is really hard to go out and try to meet a good girl, you kinda have to wait for those to fall into your life. meanwhile, just enjoy yourself. good girls like good guys, so you will have a much better chance attracting a good girl if you are just responsibly enjoying life and not cause problems for yourself with .

[okbeast]

Besides.. you have yoru banshee. Chicks dig banshees... they vibrate and make them feel all happy inside. LOL!

 

Best advice a guy could get

 

On another note, I agree with ^^^, just take things easy and don't feel like you HAVE to have a girl.

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i hear ya bro . im miserably happy with my lady :biggrin: . Get ure House , Ure Car , A business , A job ....... and start doing it on your own . Im 20 and i havent hollerd at ol dukes in a few years for a cent. Feel great to be broke but atleast i got a roof :biggrin:

 

edit : & my girl LOL

 

 

Some people tend to smoke and drink frequently , if you do drink to get rid of your problems i dont think thats too cool to do alllll the time. Your only hurting yourself....... I personally like to smoke and drink just because like ol hank says .... " Its a FAMILY tradition "

 

be safe keep your head up

[BenBB]

I dont no im not lookin for make everyone feel sry for me post but what is the deal with bein 20 years old....

 

Dude...don't remind me lol! 20 Sucked for me too, not gonna bore ya with all the gory details but I gave up a lot of shit to do what I had to do. In the end, all that matters is doing what YOU want to do with your life; sometimes you gotta stop and take a look around and make your own call...you're the one that ultimately has to live with your decisions. Have no regrets and drive on...

[CMAC]

Sometimes i think my early 20's were the best time in my life. I just took the women your talking about for the ride until i got sick of them or they got sick of me. I just focused on my carrier and the shit i really liked to do (FOURWHEELERS). I broke up with a ride that i was seeing one night and met my wife the very next night. Never thought i would find someone i have so much incommon with. She loves to fourwheel-and hunt. Now i have a 5 year old son and a step daughter that both love to fourwheel too (the boy cant get enough). Point is no one knows when and were life is gonna give that huge turn of events. If you would of told me this is were i was going to be in my 30's when i was 20, i would of told you your f---king crazy! So just do the things in life you love to do and the rest of the shit will fall into place. Just keep it on four wheels :thumbsup:

[brian]

Hey, I got married at 19, straight to work no college, had 2 kids by 21, divorced at 28, fought for custody and won.

Found another woman a year later. She just might be as crazy as the first. :shrug: ::

 

My point is this......

Until she left, I thought my first wife was everything. When she left, I thought my life was over !!!

I'm still here now, my life went on without her. If my current wife leaves, I'll miss her, but I'll still survive.

 

Chicks are f_cked up, and in many ways they are all the same. If your lucky, someday youll find one

whose crazy fits yours. Until then, it's not the end of the world if you lose a few of them.

Each will ad something new to your life, just try to remember the positive things.

My first wife gave me my son and daughter who love to dune !!!! :cool:

My current wife and I have traveled to some really cool places. Places I wouldn't have gone otherwise.

 

Chin up bro....... Life can be really good if you focus on the cool stuff. :thumbsup:

[Fireroad Express]

yep, lay off the booze! alcohol is a depressant and will drag you down further. try changing your routine a bit. get to know more people. the more people you know the better chance you have of meeting someone you like. (its called networking in the sales world). don't look to hard for a woman, she'll come along eventually. i was thirty when i met my wife and it was the right time for me. :thumbsup:

[sgt seth]

Hey man. Not to be a dick but it happens to everyone. I'm turning 21 in a few days, have spent my entire 20th year deployed. When I turned 19, my girl broke up with me. Was with her for 2 and a half years. I drank for 8 months, a half gallon of rum every three days and it didn't help one bit. Got me deployed pretty much. I volunteered coming here rather than going to AA like the family wanted. Pretty much you need to get yourself squared away before you can expect someone else to want to be part of your life. Take care of what you need in life, then the things you want will fall into place. Takes time man. Be safe and quit drinking. Take it from someone who knows.

[rkc]

It takes time to gain a bigger/ better perspective on life. Break the cycle educate yourself, turn off the idiot box and pick up a book. Find someone you admire and take their advice....can't hurt to try. Depression is mostly a pity party (been there). Not to be mean but you're not the center of the universe or unique, problems are common to man. Make it a practice to live for others and stay teachable.

In my book you're a big man asking for help!

[letsgetthisdone]

Start listening to Tom Leykis. I'm sure Polish will chime in on this and help me out. He'll teach you how to get mor ass then a toilet seat without being in a serious relationship. Works damn good and i'm in high school.

[Bansheeman1121]

Thanx a ton guys it seems like when it rains it pours, bills suck then shit breaks more bills but i did deff relize from readin ur posts shit falls into place over time deffinatly helps alot when you put that into perspective. I just gotta keep on motorin and 1 thing at a time.. really apprecate the replies least i still got my baby out in the gradge maybe go ridee her all night looooong .. ITS A FAMILY TRADITION lol i saw hank jr this past summer he frickin rocks live why do u drink TO GET DRUNK lol thanx again everyone

[Bansh-eman]

if you really want to get your shit together... join the marines!!! im telling you i look at my buddies back home and ya i love them to death i mean they are my boys, but we are in no way the same ppl any more! i was forced to growup and see life and many other things in a totally differant perspective... how many 22 year olds you know that own a 360 thousand dollar house? not too many im sure... the miliatry isnt going to "give" shit, your going to do your time and your going to bust your ass but trust me the friends and the experiances you get out of it will change your life! even if i walk out of my 8 years in the marines and it dosent help me not even 1% to find a job... the time i spent was WELL worth it! my judgment and leadership excelles WELL over many people that are incharge of large companies i can without a dought say that! wether your looking for a place to call home or just a place to get your shit together, look into the military... you wont be sorry... just keep in mind your only going to get out what you put in.. you come in and do the bare minimum your going to get the bare minimum in return.. you comein and take charge, be on time , look good in uniform , and make shit happen without being told to do it.... your going to go places!

[MILO]

hey bud, welcome to the real world. women, work, bills, family, whatever, it's all bound to have some pretty miserable times. and just when you think it can't get any worse... it does. i'm now 32, married for 8.5 years with 2 amazing kids and have a nice home and a secure, good paying job. all things that i felt at various times were never going to happen for me. bud, you're 20, you have plenty of time to achieve these things. i know it's a bitch sometimes, but you have to just be patient. the more you try to force things to happen, the more they get messed up. you have to just roll with it and things will fall into place. i got married at 24 and had my 1st baby at 27. that is 4 yrs and 7 yrs away from your age now. a lot can, and will happen within that time period. it's up to you whether you let those things change you in a positive or a negative way. good luck bud. :cool: