Girl Troubles

[BigRed350x]

From what i have read in some other posts, I am not the only one having troubles with girls lately. I am in a pretty sticky situation. i am a supervisor at work, so I have duties at work that I am required to adhere to. this girl i like works at the same loction and I see her about 4 to 5 days a week. we go out and do things together most nights after work, but its difficult to keep things strickly personal and to keep it out of work. whenever something isn't totally good between us I have to be with her at work as well, and I have to be her supervisor at work, so it only makes things worse when I am in a position where I have authority over her. There was some stuff that happened yesterday and today that made everything really awkward and put me in a strange mood at work. The two other supervisors at work picked up on my mood change almost as soon as I came in the door. I realize this is not a good thing for work, so I have to figure everything out before tomarrow. Its just very frustrating. Sorry, had to vent.

[LegendSS28]

hey man, sorry to hear bout this....im prolly not the person to look to, but if it was me i would just talk to her and tell her that i dont want anything personal coming into the workplace...look at it like this, you go to work with an objective : to get work done and do your job. after work tho, can be a completely diferent story...so i would say to just talk ot her bout it, but good luck man

[KoooPSD]

hey man, sorry to hear bout this....im prolly not the person to look to, but if it was me i would just talk to her and tell her that i dont want anything personal coming into the workplace...look at it like this, you go to work with an objective : to get work done and do your job.  after work tho, can be a completely diferent story...so i would say to just talk ot her bout it, but good luck man

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Thats the advice i would give aswell.

[locogato11283]

hmm. just talk to her and see whats up. see what shes thinking. get on the same page..

[pro line]

i used to manage a reaturaut and whenever i dated a waitress it turned out real bad. My advise is try to change schedule or get her out of it some how.

 

good luck

[MILO]

i'm a supervisor at my work also, but i'm married so i don't have issues with women at work. but as a supervisor, i can warn you that you are treading on dangerous ground. i try not to bring my work home, or take home issues to work with me. it's not good to let them get mixed together. but i guess that's already happened for you. that being the case, you've got to get your priorities straight. which is more important to you, the girl or your job? hopefully you can set things straight without losing one or the other, but chances are one of them will suffer, and ultimately so will you. if something has to give, you have to evaluate which will have the most adverse affect on your future. tough decision i'm sure, but it's one you will have to make at one time or another. better sooner than later.

[05bansh]

I agree with what the other guys said. You need to sit her down and discuss work is work, and after work we can chill and relax, but when at work its strictly business.

[~~Banshee~~]

I agree with what the other guys said.  You need to sit her down and discuss work is work, and after work we can chill and relax, but when at work its strictly business.

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I agree

[Cotton eyed Joe]

I've heard that personal and business issues don't mix, and in my business its kinda the same. Keep business , business.

I'd try to keep it undercover the best you can at work.

 

This is unrelated but I'm curious (and somewhat serious) since I've never been in that position. You mentioned being in a position of authority over her, but if you were dating her could you take her over your knee and reprimand her at the office and it would be cool, or could you still get into trouble over it??

 

I've always just worked at the family business, I have no outside experience and there is no one there I'd be interested in spanking.

 

 

Good luck.

[01bansheeke]

IMO you can't do it. well, you can do it, but it will cause you a big f'n headache. No matter what either of you say, you will bring your personal life to work. Most people do. If you care about your job..and your job depends on your performance, i don't think i'd keep up on that relationship. If you guys are just hanging out doin whatever, then its all good. Girls get possessive. So do guys. It could get ugly. if it was me, i'd bite the bullet and move on, but its not me. Do what you feel is right.

[locogato11283]

haha stan. take her over your kneee....

[Cotton eyed Joe]

haha stan. take her over your kneee....

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[RNBRAD]

I guess that's why most big companies have fratenization policies. I'm sure for the most part is it allows things to happen which aren't necessarily in the best interest of the company. But we can tell you all the bad things that are going to happen if you continue the relationship, but your still going to continue to bang her. It's just in our nature to destroy ourselves for sex.

[ledofthezep]

Well...enjoy both while you got'm. I lost both my job as a supervisor--job as a whole, and my girl that I thought I was spending the rest of my life with in less than a week, ironically starting a year to the date of when my dad died.

 

 

Hang in there man, go with what you feel is right and be honest with yourself and others--have no regrets, you never know how it will turn out until it does; wish you the best.

[rptorman]

I am going to tell you from experience. I lost a girlfriend that I worked with and then my job because of her. On that side I say don't do it. Now I am married to a woman that I work with. We have no problems. We work in different areas so we don't really see each other to much. Your problem is, you are her sup and work to close. Sorry, but I just don't think it will work. I will never lose my job because of a woman again. Good luck.