xcracer160 Posted August 2, 2004 Report Posted August 2, 2004 well i'm his g/f and he wanted me to reply so he could understand what i mean. we've been together for almost three years now on and off. he had left me for someone else before but came back bc he realized that he wanted me. we have gotten pretty serious lately and i guess i'm kinda scared. i have never been with anyone else so i can't compare him to anybody. there have been a lot of problems lately between us and i just want to have some time apart to seriously look at the relationship and see if it's what i want. i didn't want to lead him on so i figured a break would be a good idea and give us time to think. i'm not sure what will happen but i know if i do come back i will never leave again and things really are meant to be and we could have a total commitment. i know we're both young and i've heard many people say that you have to be with a lot of people before you find the right person. he was my first kiss, hell first everything. i thought he was the right person and would like to be with him forever but i just don't want to get married and sometime down the line realize things aren't right and get divorced, bc i don't really beleive in divorce, i could never go through that. when he left i thought that was the worst pain in the world but a divorce would kill me, i totally believe in the whole death til us part thing. that's why i want to make sure we're right together now than waisting our time when we could find the one for us both even if it isn't each other. i just hope that when i come back he will be as forgiving as i was to him before. god josh i love you so much but please bear with me for while i try to get things straightened up. you had to make a mistake to realize you wanted me, just give me the chance to make a mistake to, so i can realize how good you are. bc when i come back it will be til death do we part. so neither of us will have any excuses. oh and by the way the whole bike thing i did not complain. you even admitted you would kill yourself on anything too fast or lose your license. and after riding the 500 you said you wanted something that would fit you and i mentioned i'm looking for a bike and asked you to sell it to me. and the whole part about me bitching about you breaking the dirtbike you bought for me that i rode for a total of 15 seconds before craching or the scrambler that i never rode bc you killed it before i had the chance. hunny it's been almost three years and i still can't ride, i'm waiting for you to teach me so we can ride together and not have to ride bitch all the time. i don't mind if you talk to that girl anyway bc while i'm trying to find things out you might as well make the best of it. and if i lose you to her that is the risk i have to take. if you love someone let them go if they come back they will always be yours, if they don't it wasn't meant to be. you came back to me so it must be right just trust me to come back. all i need is some time. please be patient. from "asl" i have loved you and love you more each day from that first day we met and the first kiss my life has been changed for the best, thank you for the best 3 years we have been through so much together and i know we can get through anything else life throws at us. hunny, i love you always and forever. love lisa well there's my point of view i hope this will make things better. sorry that i rambled on for a while i just had to explain everything. i just want you to be happy no matter what happens. Quote
Blue Duece Posted August 3, 2004 Report Posted August 3, 2004 i have never been with anyone else so i can't compare him to anybody. there have been a lot of problems lately between us and i just want to have some time apart to seriously look at the relationship and see if it's what i want. thats a major problem, it means you havnt matured, wanting time apart means your not in love..if you were you couldnt sleep at night, neither could he, somewhere one of you pissed on your intamacy somewhere somehow, ...........id wait till i was 30, if he's mr. wonderful he will still be then Quote
locogato11283 Posted August 3, 2004 Report Posted August 3, 2004 kinda sounds to me like an excuse to go out and f*ck around but still have something back at home. maybe im wrong, who knows. Quote
Cotton eyed Joe Posted August 3, 2004 Report Posted August 3, 2004 i have never been with anyone else so i can't compare him to anybody. there have been a lot of problems lately between us and i just want to have some time apart to seriously look at the relationship and see if it's what i want. thats a major problem, it means you havnt matured, wanting time apart means your not in love..if you were you couldnt sleep at night, neither could he, somewhere one of you pissed on your intamacy somewhere somehow, ...........id wait till i was 30, if he's mr. wonderful he will still be then I agree. If you were hurt before when you were apart, and you can't phathom the idea of getting a divorce (it would kill you were your words I think) then why the hell aren't you upset about being apart right now? You can't just turn it on and off. Its an all or none sort of situation if you are serious. But, you are (both) still young. Just don't do that fuckin "we're on, we're off" bullshit every other week. I know a few "girls" (they aren't women yet imho) that get back together with their guy because they can't sleep at night, then some other guy comes along and they bail. They guy is a fool for taking her back to begin with, but she's pretty screwed up for leaved every other week for someone else "to find out what she really wants" or "to make sure she really wants him", which in one girls case is a bindle and a dirty dick for some reason. If you are the non commital type person, then be that person. If you are the type that sticks with the first person you've ever loved, then be that person. Just don't say shit to justify doing something. If you are that way, be honest with the other person involved. Either they will accept you or reject you. You cannot control that. You must accept what they decide about you (to be with you or not etc) in order to be honest with yourself and the other person. I've been bullshitted by women before. They act one way, we get serious, then they act another way, the real them shows up, and its up to me to just "accept them for who they are" well, some have gotten pissed when I accept thats how they are, and I have said "get the f*ck out". My choice to be with who I want. And after a situation like that I'm twice as pissed off. #1 I was lied to when a girl pretended to be something she wasn't. #2 I don't like who they really are and I've wasted a ton of time and energy on someone that wasn't what they said they were when all that was needed was some honesty UP FRONT IN THE BEGINNING!!! If you are worried that someone won't like you, so you pretend to be something else for a while, eventually the real you will come out, and guess what??? That person WILL NOT LIKE YOU! k Im done ranting for a minute. My head hurts. Quote
oldbanshee Posted August 3, 2004 Report Posted August 3, 2004 You left him because he broke your bikes? Quote
racer Posted August 3, 2004 Report Posted August 3, 2004 You left him because he broke your bikes? thats kinda hows it seemin. or are we confused? Quote
xcracer160 Posted August 4, 2004 Report Posted August 4, 2004 hey i just wanna say that i have beent torn apart lately i havet slept havent been able to keep food down for more than a fe wmin and the only time i can even think straight is when i'm with her. i hate it when she cries in front of me but she is the one who wants time apart . i have my guesses and my assumptions about what she does that i dont know about i give her freedom i dont stop her from going allover with friends even the guy ones even tough it bothers me . i care about her so much but i destroye da 3,000 motor at work just so i had a reason to go home since the motor dont work means no work for me! just so i coudl wake her up and spent all morning holding her in my arms. if it isnt love that i feel for her i dont wanna know what it is b/c it's wreaking chaos on my mind and body.i cant stand not beign with her and she si th eonly one i want how many girls out there want a guy who is totaly committed, honest, and compassionate well most of the time. but i am runnign out of ideas my options are gonna narrow down even more drink my pain away, ride the shee with a throttle that sticks at 3/4 throttle most of the time. or just go awayand never look back or the only option i wanan do is take her back for open arms and hope that it's not to late and the trust is still ther eb/c i know it's fadign alot and fadign fast.she isnt just par tof my life she IS my life. well i have to go and hope someone can give em a little help on this one i'm gonna go drownd my tears and try and finnish my 350x project.and hope i can hold back my emotions. Quote
Meat Posted August 4, 2004 Report Posted August 4, 2004 Like sand through the hourglass... these are the days of our lives.... da da dadada Josh, my advice. Run run run run run run run run run run run fast run run some more. No seriously, I don't have any good women advice for ya, Im not qualified enough to help. If you guys are fightin and arguin' now, wait till your both 45, you'll be killing each other. Sorry I didnt make it up to camp coalfest over the weekend, I got your message late saturday night and by that time it was torrental downpouring. We'll have to get together soon tho, I'll prolly be riding this Sunday and every day during the week. Bring your old lady up here and we'll have group therapy with a barrel of Yeungling Quote
xcracer160 Posted August 4, 2004 Report Posted August 4, 2004 the last weekend fo the month i am organising a small ride up in nanticoke it's alot of trails and exploring get nathan to pick you up on the way lolhe's commin up or i could always haul your qua dup it's a 3 wheeler rid ebut your a friend of mine and come al ong:D ps thanx i like dthe advice. Quote
oldbanshee Posted August 4, 2004 Report Posted August 4, 2004 Why don't you just get back together Quote
xcracer160 Posted August 4, 2004 Report Posted August 4, 2004 she doesnt want to she wants to see other peopel before she settles down.and make sure i'm the right one but i dont want her tosee other people? do you blame me? Quote
oldbanshee Posted August 4, 2004 Report Posted August 4, 2004 IC, sorry for being lazy and not reading all the other posts thoroughly. I'm kind of an asshole, and alot of people have a disliking for me. And I'm about to add to it. If it was me, I'd dump her and never look back. If she want's to try seeing other people, and not just take a little time out. That is unacceptable. Say goodbye, and find one that really digs YOU! Get out there and start looking man, be happy too! Quote
evil Posted August 4, 2004 Report Posted August 4, 2004 IC, sorry for being lazy and not reading all the other posts thoroughly. I'm kind of an asshole, and alot of people have a disliking for me. And I'm about to add to it. If it was me, I'd dump her and never look back. If she want's to try seeing other people, and not just take a little time out. That is unacceptable. Say goodbye, and find one that really digs YOU! Get out there and start looking man, be happy too! fucking right on man kick her ass curb side and get on with your life. Quote
Blue Duece Posted August 4, 2004 Report Posted August 4, 2004 she doesnt want to she wants to see other peopel before she settles down.and make sure i'm the right one but i dont want her tosee other people? do you blame me? thats her way of saying if she cant find anyone better she will keep you in mind, id say at your age id be off fucking better looking chics just to make sure, your ready to settle for her Quote
Cotton eyed Joe Posted August 4, 2004 Report Posted August 4, 2004 she doesnt want to she wants to see other peopel before she settles down.and make sure i'm the right one but i dont want her tosee other people? do you blame me? thats her way of saying if she cant find anyone better she will keep you in mind, id say at your age id be off fucking better looking chics just to make sure, your ready to settle for her Damn right. If its okay for her to do it, its okay for you to do it. Honestly, do you want a woman that took off on you to go f*ck 30 other guys to make sure you are the one she wants while you sit at home waiting.......and waiting.......and waiting......and then she pops in one day and says "OK IM READY FOR YOU NOW!"...... Don't be someones bitch bro, just go find a woman that wants to take you seriously. Quote
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