i hear where your coming from Sredish, my first kid was born(my son) after i had been married 12 years, i owned 2 homes a nice biz and was making good cash, now i have a daughter also, the day my son was born my life turned so fucking upside down, i think if your old enough to fuck your old enough to be responsible, in the service ive killed fuckers, it haunts you, brooke is so correct,killing a person is so much different than stepping on ant's.......women are haunted by that shit