Stan, I won't sugar coat it, the next few months of your life are going to be the worst. Divorce is 10 times worse than anyone can imagine. It will take longer to resolve than you expect and you will go through all of the emotions in ways that you didn't think were possible. BUT, once it is over you will be a stronger man with a better life. It is hard to believe right now, but you will. My ex did the same 'out-of-the-blue' bull shit after 9 good years. I was floored, but after I had time to reflect, I realized that there were signs that I either missed or choose to ignore. Either way, it wouldn't have made a difference. She wasn't happy with me and there was nothing that I could do to change her mind. Sounds like you are in the same boat as the rest of us, she just forgot about what is important and lost perspective of her life. You will realize, like the rest of us, that this is your oportunity to improve yourself and your life. You didn't ask for this oportunity, it was given to you, and I know you will make the best of it. Don't let this sour you to women. From the number of replies to this post, it is easy to tell that there are a lot of bad women out there, but not all women are. I highly suggest finding a counselor to talk to. Your friends and family will be there to support you, but most of the time f&f can be too nice and supportive to really help you through this. A counselor has no vested interest in you, they weren't your friend before, nor will they be your friend after the sessions. They don't care if they piss you off by asking tough questions. They will make you think about stuff that you don't want to think about and address issues that you would prefer to ignore. F&Fs will skirt around these issues and point blame at the bitch. Neither of these are helpful in truly getting over this. Don't get me wrong, f&f are very important right now, but a counselor can help so much more.